Hey friends, here’s another GREAT Self-Empowerment Article from Sri Chinmoy. Dealing with a difficult person(s) is something that nearly EVERYONE will experience in their lives, here are some tips on how to make sure these people don’t compromise YOUR character:
Life will always present us with awkward, difficult people; and unless you want to live in a Himalayan cave you will have to learn how to deal with these people. We should not let difficult people, spoil our inner equanimity; with the right attitude we can maintain our peace of mind even when dealing with unpleasant people. These are some suggestions for dealing with awkward people.
1. Don’t Think about Them All the Time
Sometimes when people cause us difficulties they start to dominate our thoughts; this makes their presence seem very close. However, it is best to think about them as little as possible. Instead, concentrate on things and people who inspire you. Thinking about difficult people is not going to change how they behave, but it will cause us unhappiness.
2. Don’t Expect to Change Them.
Awkward and unpleasant people are the least likely to be willing to change themselves. Don’t take it upon yourself to try and change their behavior; you will all most certainly fail. Furthermore, they will probably resent your interference and this will create further difficulties.
3. Don’t feel guilt
If people create problems in our life we can start to feel guilty, even though we have done nothing wrong. In cases like this we have to be detached; it is not our fault problems are created. As long as we seek to maintain a good attitude, that is all that matters.
4. Silence is a powerful weapon.
When people say unreasonable things, the natural instinct is to try and argue with them. However, this draws us into their weird perspective. In many circumstances, it may be appropriate to maintain silence and not respond to what they say and do. By being silent, we are effectively ignoring them without having to criticize their actions. In silence their is great power; when we ignore them, they lose influence. Silence also gives us time to think a more measured and detached response, for later.